Book Summary

It’s Not Me, It’s You is not just a memoir, it’s a permission slip.

To say no.

To stop explaining.

To finally put your own voice above the noise of everyone else’s expectations.

Nicole Morris was raised in a world that taught her to survive by shrinking: to be silent, suppress her needs, and settle for less. Her childhood was marked by poverty, the loss of her grandmother, and the unraveling of her family through addiction and abuse. That early trauma followed her into adulthood, shaping battles with body image, self-worth, and a desperate need to be seen.

But this book isn’t about what happened to her. It’s about what she chose to rise from.

After surviving sexual assault and being failed by the systems meant to protect her, Nicole began to believe her voice didn’t matter. That belief led to years of toxic relationships, emotional compartmentalization, and a 17-year marriage filled with financial and emotional abuse. Outwardly, she was thriving (earning degrees, raising a family, owning homes), but inwardly, she was unraveling.

Through unflinching storytelling and her framework of Pain, Purpose, and Promise™, Nicole offers more than reflection, she offers a roadmap for healing.

This is not about reliving the pain but reclaiming the power. It’s transformation fuel for anyone who’s ever dimmed their light, stayed too long, or mistaken being needed for being loved.

It’s Not Me, It’s You is your call to reclaim your voice, confront your truth, and step unapologetically into the life you were meant for.

Not just because of what you’ve survived, but because of what you can become!